“Sit down. On your butt. Atty, sit down.” We repeat. He’s still standing. The dog, however, is sitting. I can’t help but wonder what we are doing wrong. Just a few days ago, he was a wonderful dinner companion. Now, meal time has been turned […]
Month: January 2016
Yesterday, my parents took Atlas for an overnight visit. Josh and I were all-too-happy to have some much needed quiet time. Since becoming a parent, I’ve developed a great appreciation for silence. It’s hard to come by in our daily lives.
The excitement bubbles over as I drive to drop him off. I think of all the things I am going to get to do, that I cannot really do with Atlas constantly at my feet. I am going to get my nails done… or do them myself, since they have not been painted in three months. I’ll read a book. I’ll take a nap, and sleep in tomorrow morning. We’ll go out to dinner. And brunch. Go shopping and actually have time to browse. Or perhaps we will make a dinner together, dancing in the kitchen and share a bottle of wine. We’ll enjoy some us time. Actually cuddle together when we finally fall asleep. You know… all the good stuff.
In reality, we will do none of this other than sleep in. When ten o’clock rolls around we will climb in bed and pass out immediately. And we will sleep in until noon. When we wake up, maybe we will get ready in time to go out to brunch… alright, maybe we will tackle one more item on the list. But mostly, we will just do chores and errands that we should have gotten done during the week, but hadn’t. We will go grocery shopping, and make those returns we had leftover from the holidays. We will pick up the millions of toys in the living room, in Atty’s room, and the few that have made there way into the kitchen. We will vacuum. Do the dishes. Fold the laundry from the past few weeks. Then, we will get in the car and go pick up our child an hour or two earlier than planned because we miss him so much that it hurts. The same child that we needed a break from yesterday.
We cannot be the only parents who feel this way. As Josh and I were talking about it tonight, I couldn’t get the saying, “the grass is always greener on the other side,” out of my head. It doesn’t fit perfectly, because I’d never actually wish him away – but taken with a grain of salt, it is so true.
We want quiet, but we miss the noise. There is peace in the chaos of a child.
Reflecting on this, next time we have a night away we will focus on doing all the of things we really want to do. And leave all of the things we really should be doing for later. It is so important to spend time just us two, no baby included. Our marriage needs to be a priority. Next time, we will make it a priority.